love
“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.” ― Corelli's Mandolin
“A person learns how to love himself through the simple acts of loving and being loved by someone else." -- Haruki Murakami, 1Q84 [I read 1Q84 a few years ago, but this quote rings true in light of recent conversations, so I wanted to remember it by putting it here. Photo of beach on Inis Oirr in April, 2018]
The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her. ~ Bob Marley